Hey guys, it’s been a while since I wrote a new blog post I know.
Life has been busy and I’ve been in and out of good health but hey! It’s a new month, a new day and I’m alive, so it’s all good.
There are a few things on my mind this week but right now, one of my pet peeves has been annoying me lately and especially so today; that is people who lack the simplest form of manners. You know…Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Thank you or Please. However, I’ve found it’s the Good Morning/ Good Afternoon or Good Night that goes a begging.
I’ve been trying to figure out if it’s generational, cultural or a bit of both. What makes a person enter a room where there are other people present and just pass them like an easy exam (as we like to say in Antigua) without a greeting or salutation?
From a young age, (in the West Indies) you are taught that when you enter a room where there are others present you give the appropriate salutation depending on the time of day. That was considered having good manners. Woe be unto you if you entered your home and didn’t greet those there. If you woke up and went into the kitchen, living room etc you’d better get that Good Morning out before you said another word or tried to get breakfast.
If you visited someone’s home with your parents as soon as that door was opened you greeted the person. If you for some reason temporarily lost your senses and did not remember to say Good Morning or whatever; your mom would give you the look…
Then say: “What are you supposed to say?” and you trotted out that “Good Morning!” quick, fast and in a hurry.
But hey…that’s just how I grew up and was raised; maybe it wasn’t so for many others. Well, obviously it wasn’t so for many people, I should probably say.
This morning I had an appointment with the dentist (that deserves it’s own post) but anyhoo…the appointment was for 8:00am and I got there at 7:35am. The office opens at 7. There was no one in the reception area but I could hear scurrying. A man emerged from a room, he looked like he possibly keeps up the premises. He walked right past me sitting in a chair and went out the door. Another man passed through, he actually said a curt hello.
I sat there until 7:50 and two ladies came in in street wear and walked right past me with their scrubs (I assumed to change). An elderly lady came in (passed me without a word) and went to stand in front of the vacant reception desk. I actually informed her that there were no receptionists present yet (because you see, I have manners and broughtupcy). That was when she turned to me and mumbled something like “Oh, ok.”
Finally at about 7:55, two girls who I assumed correctly were the receptionists came in and went behind their desks. (No greeting to either myself or the elderly lady waiting).
Once they had settled themselves in, one looked up from her monitor to finally address me and asked which doctor I’d come to see. In my head I was giving her such a dressing down! However, as I was more nervous about my appointment I didn’t have any ire to waste; so, I just exhaled and prepared myself for the chair of tension.
Do you have the same pet peeve? Isn’t it especially annoying when you enter a place of business to not be greeted? I mean, whatever happened to good manners?
© Chattinatti 2016
broughtupcy a term commonly used in the English speaking West Indies to mean: good manners or respect. It means you were raised or “brought up” with these traits.